Forgiveness iN friendship :))






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I did not find any impressive topic, besides i was thinking about my friends while writing this blog,then i started recalling my friends and comeup with this idea of forgiveness ,yes you would be thinking the same ;)
I agnise forgiveness in FRIENDSHIP"" :p

As someone who has been researching, writing, and speaking about friendship for more than two decades, I did hear from people upset about what their friends have done to them. This can involve an action that has disappointed them or an end to the friendship that they do not understand, however, is someone admitting that he is not as good a friend as he would like to be.

I read somewhere "Friendship is not a big thing - it is a million little things"

; What does this have to do with the topic of forgiveness in friendship????? Well, to feel that you are not as good a friend as you should be or could be opens up an awareness that perhaps whatever it was that your friend said, or did that slighted you was not done out of malice. Lets take an example.. the friend who cancels movie plan with you because he has just fallen in love and would rather go out with her. It would take a lot more self-awareness than most people have for that friend to also add.. “I know I m being selfish and insecure and even thoughtless, but I hope you will understand and forgive me.” :P :P
No, instead someone will just say “I am sorry but so-and-so asked me out for a movie and I told her “yes” because I knew you’d understand..(koi nhi jaane de na yaar apan fir kabhi he sahi :P ) We’ll make it another time.

You may say “Of course I understand” but inside you are seething, angry, hurt, carrying a grudge that might even be the reason the friendship is waning or even ending
because he is choosing someone else for his plans whom he met a time before.
Putting yourself in your friend’s shoes and seeing the situation from his points of view does not always work. Sometimes it actually backfires since you tell yourself this really bothers you and that you would never do something like that. So how could your friend?????
A more aware person would realize that you and your friend are different and that it could be just those differences that might make your friendship so strong. Yeuupp there are those who believe that old adage that “""birds of a feather flock together” but there are those in the the opposite camp who disagree and say: “opposites attract.” lollzz

Basically, this blog is a plea for forgiveness in friendship. I’m not talking about forgiving those really horrific “crossing the line” type of actions that are so over the top that almost everyone would understand if you did get upset. Like helping my friends whatever they plan but being left off the guest list. Or being used by your friend for opportunistic reasons – what your friend can get out of your friendship – rather than just for being each other’s friends. Or flirting with their girlfriend or, worse yet, having an affair with your date or loved one.
Forgiveness in those situations is certainly possible but that’s asking a lot. I am suggesting, for starters, that you begin forgiving yourself or your friend for the little annoyances that can eat away at a friendship. I am referring to things like the phone call that does not get returned right away. (It turns out your friend was out of town and did not remember to tell you.) Or the birthday that is missed this year. (Your friend is preoccupied with lots of career and personal challenges and it literally slipped off from his mind.) Letting too much time pass between phone calls or get togethers. (You, or your friend, are just plain overwhelmed by everyone and everything you have to do. Fitting in your friendship just doesnt seem feasible for now.)
If you are lucky enough to have a close or best friend that goes back to your schooldays or even your childhood, you are fortunate indeed. That friendship is what I call a “nostalgic” friendship and you have to cut those nostalgic friends the most slack because they have known you in a way that no one else could ever know you again... :) :)) They knew you at five or ten or in your teen years. Even the newer friends you meet at social sites or through your Mom activities... Those are newer friends but they are there for you at another time in your life when you needed them, and they needed you.
Friendship requires that two people who are equally committed to making their unique and powerful relationship last. :)) It is based on trust, honesty, mutual liking, and sometimes even shared activities, but most of all shared values. One of those shared values that will take you very far with each and every friendship, including the friendship with yourself, is recognizing and agreeing on the value of forgiveness. That does nt mean you let a friend walk all over you if they are mistreating you or ignoring you to a point that is unacceptable. But the next time you want to criticize or express your condemnation at your friend because he let you down, at least try to find out just what was going on in his life that was behind his actions and see if you can forgive him.
Hard time does nt last forever but true friendship do. i will always there for anything my friends need.
No road is long with good comapny. ;))

A friend is the one who comes in when the whole world has gone out""
remember :))

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